Exam Phobia Before Exams and After Results- How to Handle

 

Now a days the children who are preparing for the examinations are very much anxious than ever before to perform. This anxiety to excel are taking toll on their minds and it eventually lead to depression and other extreme situation which we need to address at the proper time.

The following are a few tips which if we take care would help our children come out of anxiety and behave normally cotrolling their unnecessary urges that may creep in their mind during these days.

·        Never compare them with any other brighter students or scold them for their marks obtained. If at all you had scolded make sure you complete it with proper soothing comfortable words with a message that ‘ marks are not everything”

·        Convey to them that scoring good marks help them an easy entry to highter studies but scoring less is not a Crime, they also get addmission to higher studies.

·        Convey to them coming first in class is not at all priority, our success in life depends upon our handling our responsibility in a better way, not by proving better than any body else and for the same understanding what we learn and remembering it when in need is more important than coming first in class and not able to use any of them during in need.

·        In case if the Results are not as expected, never scold or show your displeasure to your children ( in such situation they are dejected themself with sad state of mind and during that time they need support and soothing words to comfort them and motivating them rather than pointing fingers on them why and what went wrong). That can be done after a cooling period when they bounce back from that phase of period.

·        In case of bad Results, parents must closely watch the behaviour of the children without making them know that you are anxious of them and never leave them alone and try to spend more time with them.

·        In case of bad results, parents must give the much needed pampering and pump motivation to child’s mind and brain by patting them by saying a few words proving your complete confidence on the child. Showing your complete confidence on the child without any blame on him her will help them a lot.

·        Talk to them nicely and with full care and thus convey the message that they are equally or more important irrespective of the fact wheather they score better or not.

·        Present a nice gift to them for the result obtained (though marks are less) with some comfort words which can be by conveying “ Our ( or some successful relatives) marks during 10^th 12^th  was much less than what you have scored”. So he or she will be happy to have performed better than their parents or successful relatives. It will motivate them a lot.

·        Give a few examples of celebrities as well as from your family and friend circles who had scored much much less but are highly successful in life.

·        Never insist to study the subject of your choice, let them choose as per their choice, you can only be a guide to them by briefing them which subject may take them to which direction in their career.

·        Indulge them into the favorite games and if possible spend some quality time outside home with complete family.

·        Most important of all Never leave them alone till “ cooling period is over”.

Above all films like “Tare Jamin Par” and “Three Idiots” and lot many others which gives lot of good messages to the system can also be handy to narrate to them in order to restore confidence in them. Before concluding I would like to point out a “naked truth” that 90% of the suicides or suicide attempts of children are not due to the bad results but due to the excessive ambitions and expectations of the parents.  It is high time parents open their eyes and stop laying “suicide traps” to their children by pumping in the burden of your expectations and ambitions on them. When ever you speak to your children on education and exams or results, make sure you don’t forget to convey to them properly loudly and clearly that marks are very important for a student but not more than the student himself or herself.

“Jai Shree Mataji”

Sudesh DJV

Indore / MP / India

3^rd May 2017

8:30 am

Sudesh DJV writes on contemporary subjects in the form of Articles and poems which is in the interest of the Nation in particular and for the Mankind in general.